This is someone you keep chatting up on Tinder from time to time, but when it comes to actually planning the date, they either "don't know when they'll be free," take forever to respond to a proposed date and time, or keep flaking on the plans you do manage to set.You enjoy talking to them and genuinely want to meet them, but at this rate, you'll be 80 years old and still sending them memes while dropping hints that you're free this weekend.It's one thing to be upfront about just having gone through a breakup or not having time for a fully-committed relationship – the problem here is the blatant uncertainty, and stating said blatant uncertainty. "It could throw a wet towel on your first date before there is even a chance for sparks to fly,"says Dr. If you also don't know what you're looking for, it can work because you're both going in with low stakes. But there's a huge difference between a natural back-and-forth about your freakishly-similar tastes in true crime podcasts and the person sending you long paragraphs about the dark parts of their life. "Remember that you do not have to share anything with a stranger."Basically: no, this person isn't "deep" and if this is the precursor to an IRL date, run.
My best advice to those who see even small signs of this kind of behavior early on in a relationship is to NOT accept and quickly move on.Trust can be lost because of things like cheating, lies, or abuse, and once it’s gone it’s nearly impossible to get it back.This is one red flag that I find few people pay attention to.Real behavioral changes for any person takes lots of work, so if your partner (or even date) has tumultuous relationships with numerous exes, and/or has lots of conflicts with people around them, then it’s fair to assume they have conflict-resolution issues.And without self-help work in this area conflict will invariably seep its way in any future relationship with them.These that you should look out for, and if possible avoid, in all of your relationships.