TDR is throwing that idea out the window, bridging the physical and digital dating worlds with its online and in-person services.In a world where online dating is essentially free, dropping K for the service is expensive.Christy told Swider she wants a man who is “kind, curious, smart (not necessarily book smart), and socially responsible.” She’s been drawn to finance guys in the past, but knows it’s been a history of poor matches.“What I want to be drawn to isn’t what I’m actually drawn to,” she said, noting she’s had a history of picking guys who are bad for her.So, Swider brought me to the networking event, at this nondescript Chelsea office building, to see her in action.Rather than set up gatherings herself, she’ll head to other organizations’ happy hours and business events after meeting with clients all day to source her match pool.
Talia Goldstein, founder of TDR, believes we’re caught in a kind of gray area where women are expected to take as much romantic initiative as men.
But, as Swider explained, for someone who’s constantly going out for cocktails and romantic meals, months of this can easily add up to that kind of money.
And, then you end up at dinner with someone who you’re not totally connecting with.
“You have to approach dating the same way you would a job: networking,” she said.
I asked her what she looks for when she scans the room.
Following this rule, you are to wait 3 days before calling in order to create suspense and appear non-needy.