I don't usually start off a post with the impact points right at the beginning.But I want to lay these out first -- because they're so vital to solid message writing -- and we'll get into the "whys" and the "hows" in a moment.You checked me out and didn't say hi" It has a very high return response rate.D&P writes about it here: As for the first girl, the convo ended prematurely, but I have a date Friday with the second girl.A very well-spoken and clearly an educated guy, he sent me a message detailing a situation with a girl he knew... The basic gist of today's post is, basically, that this -- what we're about to talk about -- is how you write online dating messages and emails that don't get ignored...and, in fact, get you exactly what you want: responses, phone numbers, dates, and success.We do believe that while the best way to get to know if you share values as well as chemistry is to observe whether a person’s actions match their words in real life; however, as a precursor, use this list to discover if that “future special someone” you just met online is the real thing. Based on their answer, you can evaluate if what they’re looking for matches what YOU are looking for. And if it doesn’t, someone else is right around the corner. This one will help you determine if your online date has a sense of humor! These interactions will DEFINITELY affect your potential future together, so it’s a great thing to know about ahead of time! Don’t ask things like, “When did your last relationship end and why?
This topic came up as I got to an email from a reader. And what I found was that I was often disappointed -- I'd put all this time and effort into a monster of a message, and then... There are a bunch of lessons I eventually took away from those experiences that I'll share with you today.It’s a great question also to see if your suitor is comfortable giving and receiving compliments! If she or he has a hard time with that, it could be an indication that the person may not truly be ready to let someone in. Being able to give AND receive are key indicators of real relationship readiness. Just gets things going in a more interesting way than "hey".I messaged this to a girl one time and she responded with "I don't have much on my profile, but thanks..blah blah". Anytime a girl has an obvious travel photo, it's an easy opener: "looks like you've done some traveling, where are you going next" "what places are on your 2014 travel bucket list" If you recognize the city (NYC can be super obvious) "I was just in NYC, had a blast, how did you like it" etc. I word it like this: "hmmm, you kinda look like you could be trouble" or if she looks super slutty I'll be more direct: "yup, you're definitely trouble" There's no script that will get amazing results from every type of girl for every man. The message that you write for a party skank is different from an artsy girl is different from a corporate drone, etc.