To figure out what to do the next time you meet a wonderful man, let’s backtrack: Was this guy wrong for wanting a woman who’s more available? Were you wrong for refusing to accept his open-relationship terms? As such, there’s no cause for you to agonize or lament what went down. And you’ll find the single dad who understands your predicament and embraces it. Not only does that not seem enough to get a relationship off the ground, it doesn’t seem enough to keep a relationship going either. And the casual level was essentially what this guy was offering you when he brought up dating others.Doesn’t that feel a lot better than worrying that you let some guy get away? Is your ex in the picture in terms of custody/visitation?If it’s your already active social life that doesn’t leave you time for cultivating a romance, why not cut back on that?That is, if finding a potential love is important to you.After all, don’t we men prefer to be free of those pesky rug-crawlers and the burdens they bring?Aren’t we notorious for running away when the pregnancy test comes back positive?It turns out that besides yours truly, she knows only one other man who isn’t into the whole babies thing.“I would have thought it would be very easy to find a man who did not want children,” she sighs.
I told him I was happy to have met him and that we shared a connection, but wouldn’t be open to the idea of other people and cut things off. However, I understand my lack of availability may be a big issue for anyone.
That same year she went back to Match, but the matches were worse than before: “A lot of them had children not that much younger than me,” Jane said.♦◊♦What’s the deal here?
Shouldn’t it be easy for Jane to find a baby-free man?
He typically has dated women without children as he found it was less complex.
We went out four times in one month, and in between there was a strong connection we both verbalized and confirmed experiencing.
Thanks for your question, Single Mom, because it’s a great reminder that sometimes a strong connection isn’t always enough to get a relationship off the ground.