As for why she thinks the equation has endured for so long, Winter said, “There's no logical reason for this to be a ‘rule.’ Nor does this mathematical equation determine the 'optimal age gap.'” “However, you might note that the gap is larger than one would imagine.
Historically, a woman was to choose a man the same age, or five to 15 years older.
Relationship expert Susan Winter said, “I find it amusing that there’s an equation for the ‘optimal’ age gap in love.
While formula’s seem as though they have some kind of scientific credence, the truth is that two resonant souls will find each other (regardless of their ages).” Whether there are any rules we should follow when looking for a potential mate, Winter said, “Rules no longer apply - there are no rules in love except to follow your heart.” Cute.
“Socially speaking in the western world, women have been granted liberty to unite with men five to 15 years older without anyone batting an eye.
Conversely, when a man chooses an older mate he’s apt to encounter judgement and discrimination,” Winter told us.
It's like a bunch of 20-somethings sat down and decided to make an already difficult thing even difficult, implementing rules no one even asked for!
“Rules are made to be broken in certain cases, but it’s not a bad start to set some parameters.” However, how much can we really rely on a rule written from the perspective of an early 20th-century male?
While age is truly just a number, successful significant relationships are based on mutual understanding and connection.” “Rules are made to be broken in certain cases, but it’s not a bad start to set some parameters.” However, how much can we really rely on a rule written from the perspective of an early 20th-century male?
The original quote, taken from Her Royal Highness, Woman: And His Majesty Cupid, is as follows: “I heard the other day a very good piece of advice, which I should like to repeat here, as I endorse it thoroughly: A man should marry a woman half his age, plus seven.
It turns out to be relatively well established, dating back more than 100 years to a book by Max O’Rell written in 1901, and the 1951 play The Moon is Blue.
We asked three relationship experts to weigh in on the rule - and their responses were surprising.
But for relationship expert Rachel De Alto, the old rule is pretty helpful in determining suitable age differences.