Don't call her 'spicy' or 'feisty.' Unless she uses those words to describe herself, in which case she may not mind if you do either. An ex-boyfriend once asked me if he could call me his "little tamale." I know I like to eat, but (a) no, and (b) WRONG COUNTRY DUDE. The sooner she gets you cleared by mami, papi, and the rest of the crew, the sooner she'll know whether she wants to keep you around or not. If you ask her to be a 1 at a wedding or big family affair too early on, she'll think you're getting serious, so if you're not, don't do this. A date's not the time to bust out the few phrases you remember from Spanish 101. But that said, if her family asks if you want to speak in Spanish while you're together, go for it. And if she's important to you, making a little effort goes a long way: It IS OK to ask questions or share a general interest in her culture or background; it's NOT OK to fetishize her or ask her "why Latinas always do [insert thing]?If she has relatives, for example, who speak very little English who want to speak to you in Spanish, and you know some, it's OK to try and bridge that gap. As in, if something happens to you that you don't want anyone to know about, keep that shit locked down deep inside, because if you tell her, everyone else will know by the end of the day too. But on the bright side: There's special occasions, so don't bank on it! " or attribute her behavior to just "being Latina." Follow Alanna on Twitter.No one will be offended, and her family will probably appreciate it. There's no such thing as "casual." She'll be dressed to the nines no matter where you go, even if she's just picking you up from the airport. Please don't expect a home-cooked meal every night. Some Latinas grew up cooking, and others have started fires just trying to boil water, so if she suggests takeout or pizza, go with that and don't complain. Once you’ve got a few family gatherings under your belt and struggled to get your opinion across, one of two things will happen.
When you’re dating a Latino, your whole sense of time is adjusted. Latinos take their offspring absolutely everywhere. My parents left my sister and me in a hotel room in Thailand in the 80s while they went to watch a show.It will feel normal to you to have dinner at 10 pm and to go out to a bar at midnight. I remember asking a tour guide in Guatemala once what time the bus arrived. I’m not condoning that either, but just occasionally it would be nice to go out without sleepy children draped over the table or a baby crying in the corner. But once I was driving in a car with my Latin boyfriend. It turns out my boyfriend had been watching me “checking out” the 60 year-old street sweeper on the sidewalk outside.And she spurted out a schedule based on GMT – “Guatemala Maybe Time”. I looked out the window a couple of times to see if the traffic light had turned green yet. Nothing against street sweepers or mature men, but it’s just not really my style. You’ll end up covering yourself up to avoid these outbursts. We’re not talking burkini here, but don’t even think of going topless on a beach in Europe… Whether you’re the one who has to speak in Spanish, or they talk in English, there will come a time when communication breaks down due to the language barrier.And you will have to do it all over again on Christmas Day.Eating the leftovers with a hangover and feigning enthusiasm for Christmas when your relatives call.For this reason, take a few minutes to learn about some of those customs. Mexican Gender Roles There is no doubt that this is one custom that seems to be prevalent whether you are living in the US and dating a Mexican or living in Mexico.