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Everyone will see you as one of those guys who knows how to make life after divorce for men over 40 really work.

We've had it all: careers, marriage, kids, divorce. So, as my mother always says, about everything: "What could be bad?

I call this first round of dating preliminary dating because you’re not really sure what type of woman you want – maybe you want someone to listen to you and provide emotional support, maybe you want someone to make your ex jealous, or maybe you just want someone you can have sex with – and because you’re still hurting from your divorce you’re not ready to enter into a relationship.

Its just odd I don't really come across any other 40 year olds, women or men, despite being a very active person who belongs to hobby and social groups, goes to the gym daily.In my more than 10 years’ work with men over 40, I’ve yet to meet one who can immediately jump from being what he thought was happily married into the fabled life of a playboy.(No, not even the men who cheated on their wives can easily do this.)Men over 40 need time to shift from being a family man to being a single dad because you can’t just erase the lifestyle you’ve had for years as easily as flipping a switch. Step 1: Figuring things out This is the time when you make all the big adjustments and learn to live on your own again. The power of dating over 40We are finally, finally, our best selves, desperate for nothing and no one, open yet wise, generous and compassionate yet sharpened and clarified by life's betrayals. When you think about it this way, when you look at the whole picture of who we are, where we've been, what we want, who we've become, how can we not feel like the possibility of dating should be fascinating, interesting, full of tingly possibilities!? We can say, 'I'll give it a whirl.' We can throw caution to the wind. We don't' have to say yes to anything or anyone we don't want to say yes to. The fear of youth Because you've got nothing to lose! We were hunters - aiming for the career, the guy, the condo, the essential pieces of that elusive Real Life. Women and the blessings of aging We've finally made peace with all the enemies of our younger selves - our parents, our exes, our bodies, our limitations, our life choices, all the stuff we thought we could control but couldn't, our mortality, our unique strengths and magic, our maternal and womanly wisdom we no longer ignore but allow to guide us.But you will figure out a way to make the basics of your new life work for you.

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