We grow up, we figure it out, we stop doing that stuff.It is unlikely, being as self-aware as you are now, that you will repeat those same mistakes.w=300&h=200 300w, https://captainawkwarddotcom.files.wordpress.com/2014/08/jamesbond.jpg? w=600&h=400 600w, https://captainawkwarddotcom.files.wordpress.com/2014/08/jamesbond.jpg? w=150&h=100 150w" sizes="(max-width: 300px) 100vw, 300px" / To elaborate: Step I. Works by men, with male protagonists, dominate popular culture. If you aren’t good at acquiring these objects you are a loser or a failure.We all grow up on stories and messages where men go out and do great deeds and they rescue and/or win the love of women. These are the messages you are swimming in, and they are affecting your life.2) Seek out new activities and build on the interests and passions that you already have in a way that brings you into contact with more people. Some of those will be in your age group/dating pool or know someone who is.3) When you have the time and energy for it, try out online dating sites to practice dating. 4) Be really nice to yourself and take good care of yourself.Before all that happened, I was an incredible jerk, an arrogant piece of shit with an intellect to match and zero attachments to anyone.
The few people I’ve really sparked with are all in relationships.Even though the story took place downtown in a major city, there were no other women in the frame, though the character did frequently interact with men of all ages & walks of life. You say that not many people are interested in your passions.This is true of the Hollywood world, too, where there aren’t even enough women in crowd scenes. You need shy people who are trying to connect with each other and the sexiest/awkwardest dance to The Commodores’ Night Shift in recorded history. Have you looked all around your university community, or your dorm, or your study program?I get really confused and I pick up a lot of body language, but I have no understanding of social cues. Dear Awkward & Lonely: My own time as a Nice Girl(tm) is well-documented on this blog, so, take hope?It’s a pattern of behavior, not a permanent designation or identity.Not every work created by a woman goes against this grain, obviously, since we’re all swimming in the same cultural soup. Check things off, or join a social site like Goodreads.