RELATED: 12 Shocking Facts About Cheaters At 35-years-old, Barbara Gisborne was living the American dream.She lived in Madison, Wisconsin, with her loving husband and two children—but she was miserable.Get help first from a trusted friend, family member, therapist or one of the numerous nationwide resources instead.When Vanessa Myers*, 28, married her husband six years ago, they both couldn't wait to have children, but after their wedding day something changed for her."The affair helped me find myself and proved to me that I could live a life independent of my husband. Twenty-five years later, I'm married to a wonderful man.We love making each other happy, and never try to change who the other person is," she says."That was 25 years ago and now I can say that my affair was the turning point in my life's journey.Today, Bob and I are married, own a winery in Australia, and have five children and 10 grandchildren between us." What You Can Learn: Though Barbara's story ended up with a "happily ever after," that's not always the case when it comes to infidelity, which is why Dr.
A recent study by the University of Guelph in Ontario, Canada, attempted to answer that question and found that the reasons behind infidelity differ greatly between the sexes."Instead, I fell in love." She left everything she knew—her hometown, her husband, her job and her country—to start her life over with Bob in Australia."I became strong, independent, confident and much worldlier," she says."We started fighting a lot, and I resented him for resenting me and we were just constantly hurting each other," she says."One night I caught him trying to slip off the condom and that was pretty much the end of our sex life." Ultimately, the lack of intimacy caused Vanessa to cheat.Silverman suggests looking inside yourself if you're unhappy or bored with your relationship.