How important is it to write a good online dating first email?
The answer to that may seem obvious, but just in case it isn’t let me say: writing a great first message in online dating is critical to success or failure in your dating life.
Online dating can be unforgiving and for many of us it is easy to make mistakes without even realizing it.
I hope the steps included here are helpful for you in avoiding problems in this area!
Based on my experience, I think the above are good guidelines to improve your odds of getting the conversation going.
So what do you include in this short, introductory email?
For this discussion refers to your first message in online dating.
There’s not too much to work with here aside from asking travel questions which, by looking at her profile, probably already happens in every email she receives. I know this looks like nothing but I’ve had success with these types of emails (my wife being the best example…although her profile was actually good!
I spent too much time blindly follow good-intentioned advice and not thinking for myself early on when dating online.
So better to listen to your gut and break any “rules” (such as keeping the email short) when you think it would work to your favor.
I would write overly long and, in my head, witty emails that very rarely received responses. My rule here is very simple: keep your first email very short.
Once, I wrote no less than two pages based on a girl’s heading to her profile. I thought I was making conversation but all I was making was a girl scared. Give anything longer than three sentences a good, hard look before sending.
This advice may still be helpful for sites such as e Harmony or Chemistry.com, however these services guide the communication and there is less “emailing” early on.