I'd venture that most of the couples who have have all those compatibilities just got lucky.
(Not entirely: people with similar values hang out in many of the same places, which increases the odds of meeting in the first place.) Compatibility probably wasn't the reason they got together; it's just the reason they stay together.
Also, people identified with more traditional sex-role and religious values tend to report having higher quality marriages overall (although it isn't clear that such people aren't just reporting positive outcomes based on their desire to present themselves in a positive light).
When all factors relating to marital adjustment are considered together, personality and life-goal compatibility seems to be of paramount importance, and background factors such as whether partners come from similar family, religious or economic backgrounds or whether they have similar dating histories appear to be of lessor importance.
Raising children, working, managing a home, cooking and cleaning, shopping, being with friends and family, and the rest of regular daily living is really where the rubber meets the road in relationships and relationship satisfaction.
Areas of agreement that partners will have dealt with will generally include: Successful marriages tend to be populated by partners who come to their marriage with pre-existing significant compatibilities (of personality, temperament, goals, etc.) that make it easier for them to reach agreement because they frequently end up wanting the same thing.
They may share commonalities with regard to personality, temperament, or preferences for volatile or conflict-avoiding interactions, as well as goals, religious and ethical ideals, etc.
One has to wonder how they got together in the first place.
When I ask these questions in therapy often couples will say it was the hot sex and attraction or perhaps some other factor that had a short term influence without really thinking through the long term consequences of their partner selection in terms of living a shared life together for decades.
For example, if he's gaining weight, rather than pushing him to diet on his own, enroll in an exercise program together.7. Maintain your own friendships and occasionally have a night out without your significant other. not only makes you miss him or her, it also keeps you sane. Talking out the tough subjects — money, religion, fidelity, raising kids —will not be the most fun you've had, but it'll be valuable.9. It's just a 0 cashmere sweater, not the end of the world.10. Yes, he forgot your co-worker's name for the tenth time, but it probably doesn't mean he doesn't care about you.