(We started dating a year or more after we had known each other as friends with the understanding that we were potentially interested in marriage and wanted to spend time together to find out.) Luke asked me if he could hold my hand initially.
Looking back, it was a good thing, even though I questioned it at one point because it became a distraction for me for a short time—either wanting him to hold my hand, or having a difficult time reigning in my thoughts when he did.
If you were married already and someone kissed your wife/husband, you’d be pretty mad!
So think ‘fourth dimensionally,’ as Doc Brown would say, and know that this other person is not your mate.” “One can argue that the former two items (holding hands and hugging) can be shared in a more casual and ‘harmless’ way,” said Bill.
So if that sort of thing is affecting your mind, where it’s like you’ve been hugging this person and all of a sudden you just have to kiss them, then uh-oh!
You’d better rethink your actions, because the godly way is to go in the direction of ‘flee from immorality,’ not see how close you can come to it!
” Bill agreed with Sarah K., saying, “Hugs between two people who know they are attracted to one another should be brief …
Hugs involve even more physical contact and can be misused if one is not careful and/or has a weakness in this area.” Cheryl, 23 and married, said her “main concern was finding the person that I could continue a relationship with until the end (marriage).
We are gay owned and operated, made by gay men for gay men.“We liked to sit close to each other, but it was not until a few months before we were engaged that we sat together with his arm around me.At first, we only did this in my [Kate’s] parents’ home when they were near.An important point to note in God’s instruction is that abstinence doesn’t have to be forever. Many of you reading this have already decided that you are going to wait to have sex until you are married. Unfortunately, many young people have engaged in these forms of physical contact and then lost their virginity because their emotions overwhelmed their sense of judgment. ” The time to make decisions about physical contact is before you get in a touchy situation.Making a decision on the fly with no forethought is a recipe for going too far.However, he explained to me that he felt like it was important that there be a physical means of communicating with each other and expressing the closeness that we felt. “One thing that both of us learned was that before marriage, if you are pursuing marriage with a person, anything has the potential to be physically exciting and distracting.