In a recent article titled ‘I hope you die from yellow fever’, Caressa Wong pulls no punches.Like many other Asian women, Wong is sick of pickup lines which zero-in on race.It may sound cliché and completely unmasculine, but in Asian culture, the men are raised to always offer comfort for the female, making sure that they are provided and cared for. They might steal a kiss or two when no one’s looking, but in retrospect the Asian male would much rather prefer it behind closed doors.Whether it’s their demeanour towards the public eye, or how they choose privacy over strong lustful urges, it’s easy to assume Asian males are more conservative when it comes to showcasing their emotions.For example, at the dinner table, it is a blasphemy to serve yourself food first and immediately start eating. Unfortunately, we are influenced by what we see in the media whether we are conscious of it or not.You serve the person you are dining with first, and always offer the last bite. Most depictions of Asian males in the popular media are not the same as their Caucasian counterparts.Theories explain that this dates back to the nature of Confucian teaching – where displaying one’s emotions publicly is not encouraged.
So I’m here today to dispel (or confirm) some of those myths, but only according to my own experience. This swift technique is an ancient move passed on by his ancestors – a learned behavior through many many years watching his parents challenge their opponents to who gets to the cheque first. Headache, red flushing, even itchiness will occur after a few sips of alcohol. Many asians brought up in a traditional upbringing (both men and women) choose to live at home with their parents until they get married.A study conducted by China Daily interviewed a cross-section of people to see if they said “I love you” to their parents. When it comes to marriage prospects, Asian guys take into consideration the advice of his parents.Many people interviewed had never said those three words, and one 56-year old commenting “Saying it aloud is embarrassing for me.” Of course, even in an upbringing where being emotionally expressive is not encouraged, one can still learn how to communicate feelings despite the odds. Sure, an Asian guy will think bubble tea is a perfectly acceptable venue for a first date. Asian guys will almost always say “Yes” to dessert as a date spot. It’s more common for a Caucasian male to independently pursue his desires without asking for anyone else’s approval. Although Asian guys might take awhile to confess their undying love, but that’s only because they like to take it slow.The stereotype that Asian men aren’t masculine exists in a large part because of how they are portrayed in the media, not necessarily because that’s actually reflective of reality.Myth 6: Asian guys aren’t good at expressing emotions. In Asian culture, males are not encouraged to be expressive with their emotions. For example, when a boy gets hurt and starts crying, it’s not rare to see the parents scold the child for crying."The most disgusting set of phrases you could ever utter to me are ‘I love Asians,’ ‘I’m only attracted to Asians,’ ‘I had an Asian girlfriend once,’ or any other variant really," Wong writes.