I thanked him for his interest, but let him know that that wouldn't be happening. He asked me to reconsider and retain “an open mind.” I felt frustration and anger boil up inside me as I looked at this man three decades my senior, who had manipulated me into a meeting under false pretences and then dismissed my refusal of his advances as close-minded. Instead, I ignored his emails until he finally gave up.Being hit on by men who are considerably older was not new to me.While I did get some messages from men closer to my own age, they were in the minority.
I was enjoying a glass of white wine and sharing an entree with a good friend when he sat down next to us at the bar.
Dating much younger women seems to stem from these men's unhealthy and unrealistic obsession with youth – perhaps a way to stave off fears of their own mortality.
In fact, such a lopsided romance is my origin story.
At 20, she had me and for the next three years, my father harassed her over money (she made much more than him); he also let her know that, while she may have had straight As in high school, he, a junior high dropout, was the smarter of the pair.
By 24, my mother was divorced and saddled with a kid while my dad returned to being an eligible bachelor who continued dating young adults.
“I don't think it's your writing he's interested in,” she said.