With regards to messaging men, don’t be overly flirtatious as that can immediately set off their BS detector.
Instead, give a man a non-sexual compliment and show interest in something from his profile.
The following tips are for both men and women and they will hopefully spare you some of the failures that I went through.
Many online dating articles and products will try to convince you that what you write for your first message is the most important skill you will ever learn. For sure, what you write in your opening message and in your profile will dictate a lot of your success with online dating, but the single biggest factor is how someone responds to your profile picture. While your opening message’s content will determine if someone clicks through to your profile, it’s that little thumbnail image that will determine if they open the message at all.
Vulnerability is the essence of opening yourself up without fearing rejection. Ask your best friend or someone you trust to proofread your profile to check that what you have written is a fair and honest representation of your personality and you aren’t coming across like a crazy person. Okay, you’ve sorted out your profile and taken some decent pictures, now you’re ready to send your very first message. First, don’t just send messages out blindly: you have to tailor the message to your goals and the person you are writing to.
You don’t want to give a beautiful woman a physical compliment because it won’t have a huge effect on her.
Likewise you don’t want to tease someone who comes across like they might not be the most confident person.
Mention your ex in your profile It suggests you're not ready for a new relationship.
If you're divorced/separated with children, use the drop-down menu to reveal that.
Expressing an interest in particular hobbies appeals to prospective dates, too.